Today I ran across a Facebook News post about a young woman in Kentucky who was beaten up in public by a man because he thought she looked “too masculine, like a dyke”. There was a picture of what I hope was actually her with cuts and bruises on her face. He also told her people like her were the reason why he hated the world. I had to dig to find out that he was arrested. What I find interesting was that she expected the bystanders watching her getting beaten to intervene. They should have, but I’m not surprised they didn’t. She said she tried to fight back, but he was bigger and stronger than her.
It has finally dawned on me we women are to blame for the state of the world in a way we have completely missed, due the long period of time we have been brainwashed to believe we are inferior and must sacrifice ourselves to the roles set out for us by the societies we live in, the biggest one being that of perpetual victim. We now have so much more choice, and the choices we now have were roundly fought for by those who came before us not that long ago. We women now most certainly have education and opportunity far beyond the scope of our mothers, grandmothers, and so on, but we squander it.
Our captivity is so comfortable and familiar to us that we continue to create and enforce it within and without ourselves. We continue allowing the world at large to treat us, our children, loved ones, friends and tribe like slaves and property to be robbed, raped, maimed, tortured and killed at will. In America, we white women are privileged slaves, but slaves nonetheless. In significant numbers, we women continue to allow patriarchal power elites to act out our suppressed rage and pain on other countries and peoples around the world. We live in well denied fear of our partners, all men, all authority figures, our police and the covert anger of women all around us at the outrage we perpetrate. We refuse to step up to taking our rightful power as human beings who are responsible for the imbalance of power on every level of human affairs: politically, emotionally, physically, economically, and spiritually. What we need to do is stop that craven bullshit and end our dependence on the cooked up, false myths around female power on this earth.
What is missing the most in this debacle of irresponsibility is the ignorance around the physical capacity of women. We have women warriors in the movies and on TV, but they are fantasy figures, and considered flukes at best. Women have been effective warriors for centuries, but the actual history around their effectiveness has been deliberately erased, scattered, and obscured. Then there is the inner collective memory of women being burned at the stake by the thousands which tends to obscure any feeling we women should stand up for anything, especially not our power. That punishment for women being warriors, tribal leaders and healers continues to reverberate. It happened because there were men who understood human memory is by far the most powerful weapon of all in shaping reality and decided to unseat women from power for good. They certainly succeeded but it can’t go on forever.
There are ways to fight both with bare hands and with weaponry or ordinary objects that permeate our material world which have existed for centuries. Many of these ways reduce or even eliminate the weight and brute strength differential that exists between men and women. Many, if studied long enough and applied correctly, make lightness and leverage far more effective than mass and brute strength: aikido, jujitsu, kung fu and many more with new forms being created every day. But we women continue on fully believing not only that we can’t fight, but that we MUST NOT. And in believing that, we continue to betray ourselves and each other, stay in an amnesiac form of denial leaving us open to any predator that comes down the pike on all levels of existence.
The stake women were burned at continues on within all modern women, for we continue to sacrifice ourselves to be women at all. Good or bad, Whore or Mother, we can never sacrifice ourselves enough to make up for our actual sin of FORGETTING who we really were and are. We are our own oppressors, and in staying there in our slavery we are perpetuating the insanity which is destroying our planet.
The so called Violence against women is NEVER GOING TO STOP until WE WOMEN STOP IT. No amount of V day dances, battering shelters and rape hotlines, marches, protests, legislations regarding gender, privileges or lack of, is going to change that. All children, male and female, of all classes, should be trained from birth to effectively defend themselves. This should as mandatory as going to school or brushing our teeth. And that training should include an emotional component which deeply embeds the idea and belief that every person on this planet is a person of worth enough to take out any assailant that comes along. And I believe, that, when girls and women of a critical mass begin to stop that insanity on that literal level, they will stop colluding with and enduring all kinds of other lies and nonsense that is keeping this world and every society in bondage. We can no longer look to anyone or anything else for deliverance. Men are not to blame for this. They need for us to step up as much as we do.
I am quite aware of the fact humans, ( and that includes me) absolutely HATE and resist change with every inch of their being, no matter how much it is needed and right. It’s going to take a very long time to end the mindset of women’s total inferiority. We Women have, after all, made excellent slaves. There will be outcrys, backlash, murders and turmoil for decades to come at the minimum over this change. But it is a necessary one, long overdue. When the day comes that no one contemplates robbery, abduction, rape, torture and murder without having an automatic trepidation they might not only not succeed, but have the crap beaten out of them, or die, this evolution will have taken root. And we will all forget the effort it took to change a stupid, horribly destructive, and wrong idea that has brought suffering to millions for far too long.